Adults Handling Pressure
Try a "comeback" to get someone who is pressuring you off you back.
|Examples of Lines||How the Line Works||Comebacks that You Might Use|
|Don't worry. I'll use a condom.||Diverts Your Attention
Tries to convince you by distracting you from the real issue - what you believe is right for you.
|It doesn't have anything to do with using protection. I don't want to have sex with you.|
|You're acting like a scared kid!||Put Down
Tries to get you to change your mind by insulting or belittling you.
|I'm an adult - thank you. I know what's important to me and this just doesn't fit!|
|Come on - have another drink. You've worked hard. It's time to party. You'll be okay to drive.||False Information
Stresses the positive consequences instead of the negative, to get you to go along.
|No. More than one drink and I'm not okay to drive. I can party without more drinks.|
|Show me you love me, or I'm gone!||Rejection
Rejects you because you won't give in.
|What are you so worried about? Everyone else is doing it.||Personal Challenge
Appeals to your pride, sense of adventure, and wish to avoid embarrassment.
|That's great. Then I guess you won't have any problem finding someone else.|
|You're such a good cook. I just want to have my boss and a few friends over to watch the game.||Flattery
Tries to convince you to do something by complementing you first.
|Go ahead. I already made plans to go to a movie tonight.|
|You never come over any more. I hardly recognize you! Can't you just be here for Sunday dinner?||Guilt Trip
Tries to make you feel guilty so you'll give in.
|Give it up, Mom! I know it's been a while and I'm looking forward to being there when I can.|
|Can you think of situations where you have felt pressured and come up with possible "comebacks" to deal with the pressure?
If you find yourself without a ready "comeback", it's okay to say "NO", and you don't have to explain.