Esteem: Self-Image Example
|1. Self-Image Example||2. Re-Working a Self-Image||3. Self-Image
|when self - esteem is low||to be specific, accurate & fair|
Celebrate the strengths you already recognize!
They're real and they're valid.
|Friendly, warm, caring of others.|
|Need the approval of others.||Take others' opinions into consideration; need to believe in my own abilities.|
|Anxious in new situations.||Relaxed in familiar situations and with people I know.|
|Tend to take on other people's problems.||Supportive of others but need to set limits.|
|Relationships with Others||Uncomfortable in large groups.||B.
Look at a weakness from the opposite perspective.
Recognize hidden or overlooked talents.
|Comfortable in small groups.|
|Helpful.||Helpful to co-workers, a good neighbour.|
|Avoid conflict.||Good at negotiating. Need to learn to deal with conflict assertively.|
|Hide true feelings.||Need to learn to be assertive and to express my feelings.|
|Day to Day Functioning||Conscientious.||C.
Note the specific circumstances where a weakness
Chances are it is not occurring in every situation, all the time.
|Conscientious; attentive to details in order to do a good job.|
|A worrier.||Worry when someone close to me is ill.|
|Lacking in initiative.||Not a leader but make a worthwhile contribution.|
|Disorganized under stress.||Organized as long as I plan for stress breaks.|
|Appearance||Brown hair and eyes.||D.
Let go of the judgements.
liminate hurtful words such as ugly, stupid, lazy, useless...
These words just don't belong in a self-image.
|Brown hair and eyes.|
|Ugly crooked nose.||A nose of distinction.|
|Need to lose weight.||135 lbs.|