Last Reviewed: February 2010
Adjusting to Fatherhood
Exhaustion is likely with a new baby.
Your baby will not sleep through the night for several months. This can be hard on new parents. Newborn babies wake up to feed every few hours. Eventually, they will start sleeping longer. In the meantime, try to take turns at sleeping-in, go to bed earlier (and not necessarily at the same time), and nap. If one partner is rested, the other partner can function better.
When will we ever have sex again?
It is important to remember that after having a baby, mom needs time to recover. Good communication and not pressuring or rushing mom helps. Don’t forget to use birth control. Condoms and foam are a good choice if mom is ready for sex before she sees the doctor at around six weeks. Mom may be hesitant at first. However, with time (and some sleep), this shall pass.
For a happy family, it is important to talk to mom and maintain your relationship as a couple. Talk about something (anything) other than the baby.
Remember, mom is at home with your baby all day. You may be worried about balancing work and home. This may be a time to look at your options and talk to your partner about them. Plan to spend time together. Go on a date.
